Tag Archive | solitude

Remedies for loneliness: the importance of sharing and intimacy

Remedies for loneliness: the importance of sharing and intimacy


Dearest readers, An unforeseen and preventable tragedy recently occurred in my work place. One of my younger coworkers, M. (aged 27) took his own life during the holiday break. He was a quiet young man. Respectful, thoughtful, intelligent. A model employee who was always on time and who played by the rules. His college major […]

Magical thinking, wishful thinking:thoughts on consciousness and power


Hello dear reader, While many of us love super-heroes, we mostly think of ourselves are small, weak, and without much power at all.  Americans are culturally conditioned to be competitive and encouraged to seek out opportunities to win and dominate others, yet the truth is, anywhere from one in three to one in seven Americans suffers […]

I can do alone all by myself


Hello readers, My friend and former therapist, Bernard, once told me that being excluded from belonging to a group, to the rest of humanity, is what all people fear most. Bernard is a really special person, and I really admire and respect him. I add to his claim, and I am pretty sure he would agree […]

a frozen apple (a poem)


encased, sparkling a dangerous edge to a sweetly dripping bicuspid enclose defensive venom just in case they try to strike out we all tiptoe with hidden knives we are adults and yet the tender fruit inside our sacks of muscle and bone belies the toughness of the skin tears gather knotted in my throat the desire […]

Bonding (a poem)


A beating heart made to cling comfort warm silky, if but that proverbial hanger enclosed by some fluff a sock or synthetic fabric a ribbon she wore in her hair could fill the deep well carved by nature never replenished by nurture what happens to a child who has never been embraced inside a parent’s heart or […]

Score (a poem)


carved into flesh embossing hereditary spider vessels line up underscore the years of standing up for myself in spite a lone ranging from few to fewer support people or groups to stand up to say I love you, I need you in spite a teary heart cracked open nth fissures in her soul steaming lava […]

The Ruthless Artist (The Woman Upstairs)


  Hello readers, When I first started writing this blog in September of 2012, my goal was to shed light on the lack of balance between the forces of masculine and feminine energies as observed by myself in the social and cultural world around me.  This preoccupation still concerns me deeply, and it is interwoven […]

Are you alone for the holidays?


Hello readers, Tradition holds that holiday celebrations are a time for families to come together.  For those whose family ties are broken for one reason or another, and for those of us who live in cultures in which caring for strangers, outcasts, and loners is little important other than symbolically, the holidays can be a […]

Demons, Self, Relationships, Wholeness


Hello readers, I don’t know about you, but the older I get, the more clearly I see myself (and the less I like myself and other people too.) What I mean is that the ideal image of the nice, kind self I once felt accurately described me became out of date.  As the sides of […]

Boundaries and Loving Relationships: Are Boundaries Perceived Like Pheromones?


Hello readers, I grew up in a family where my mother was an all-powerful, all-encompassing force.  You could say that she was formidable.  In French, “formidable” means wonderful and awesome.  I guess awesome can be overwhelming and frightening too.  My father had willingly relinquished his voice and power to her, and my brother, sister, and […]

Love and the Fabric of Life


Hello readers, I don’t often visit my Facebook page, but as I browsed through a list of people I possibly know, people connected to people I have met at various times in my life, I was struck by the connective tissue of life and relationships, and the choices that we make.  Thematically dogged by solitude, […]

An Attitude of Friendship


To be a friend is to share a connection, to feel that what we are living and experiencing is validated in the reflection of another being in our presence.  To be available for friendship is to be open to anyone or anything other than our self.  We all get tired of our own company, and […]

Belonging: Is Community Necessary?


I loved reading Lois Lowry’s young adult books “The Giver” and “The Messenger”.  The stories are simple, yet profound, and extremely important questions about humans living together in community and how we respect one another (or not) are raised.  It seems as if the issues of hierarchy, power, greed, need, and vulnerability always rise up […]

Desire or Fear?


I feel a lot of compassion for humans because we are all so short-sighted, especially myself.  In fact, I feel my main life task is to learn to love and trust myself unconditionally.  Through my reading life, I have discovered the eternal life of the soul, reincarnation, the human experience described as a school to […]