Tag Archive | relationships
Soul contracts and “bad relationships”
Dearest readers, We have all been conditioned to feel as if we are either lucky or unlucky in love, but I personally believe that luck has nothing to do with how our relationships turn out. Nor, most likely, does love have much to do with what we call romantic encounters either! What’s love got to […]
Women and self-love
Dearest readers, Why is it so easy to love a dog, a cat, a flower, even a dress, a tree but so hard to love yourself? Why are humans so hard to love? Women always talk about looking for love, but love is not something that exists outside of self. The nature of reality is […]
Trust, freedom, and power: the price of conditional love
Dearest readers, I’ve been musing about belonging and freedom. Naturally, we should be easily able to be part of a family or group and also maintain our individuality. At least it seems simple on the surface. Thousands of years of conditional love have robbed us of our spontaneity, our ability to love self and […]
Vulnerability and the road to world peace
Dear readers, People say that the United States is the most powerful nation in the world. Sometimes I feel as if the U.S. is holding back world peace. Being powerful and fearing vulnerability are a tricky and dangerous combination. The United States has over 700 military bases overseas. The rest of the countries of the […]
Who has the power to make America great again? You do!
Dear readers, You and I have great and powerful voices. Our voices are a bit rusty from disuse. But we are preparing to speak again, and as we do, the change we will see and the energy and passion this creates, will be inspiring. Today, we are beginning to see this beautiful outgrowth from the negative […]
Short Stay (a poem)
a handful of acorns like growths strangle my throat the potential for an extended stay in the home of my flesh Could you be the end of my days? Fear grips my insides with the insights of life and loss you’ve no mouth yet yet you whisper don’t worry I’ve come to be with you […]
Strong or weak? States of vulnerability in America
Hello readers, I have been living, working, and raising my son in the United States for eleven years now, and I constantly run into the issue of self-protection. In other words, fear. I don’t think anyone feels safe in America, and I don’t think many feel safe to just be themselves, no matter what social media […]
Score (a poem)
carved into flesh embossing hereditary spider vessels line up underscore the years of standing up for myself in spite a lone ranging from few to fewer support people or groups to stand up to say I love you, I need you in spite a teary heart cracked open nth fissures in her soul steaming lava […]
Emotional Bodies Making Decisions
Hello readers, Have you ever wondered why it is so hard to heal, to transform the patterns in our lives that cause pain and suffering? Even people who are aware of the painful patterns and can put a name to the disorders that plagued their families and childhood still struggle. Years of therapy, […]
I Need Your Love – Is That True? A Great Read on Relationships!
Hello readers, I have mentioned in recent posts (poems and essays) my efforts to discover the joys and learn from the pitfalls of on-line dating. Most of us learn from an early age how to get our needs and desires met through some form of manipulation or deception, and guilt and shame are abundantly used […]
The Limit of the Sky (a poem)
Whenever you tell me I can stay, I want to go with you Never will a banana peel remind me so much of you as of missed opportunities Slip sliding on the stream jade green of an urban river Emerges from memory gleaming a naked young German rising from the grass forever elegant, composed slipping on […]
Demons, Self, Relationships, Wholeness
Hello readers, I don’t know about you, but the older I get, the more clearly I see myself (and the less I like myself and other people too.) What I mean is that the ideal image of the nice, kind self I once felt accurately described me became out of date. As the sides of […]
Ode to a Control Freak…a poem
Harsh crust seeping bile into a place along the rind of her soul, a lonely girl seeks support her bean pole mama distantly busy in the world Carefully hopeful, sticking pride in all interactions said girl chooses arrogance to plastic wrap her wounded desires. Does she ever know she always had a choice? Ownership of the […]
Testing Character: Can You Tell That I’ve Grown?
Hello readers, I am hoping that as a culture and society we are beginning to move away from the superficial cult of the personality and the call of celebrity to a way of life in which depth and character are emphasized. While there is nothing wrong per se about having fun and enjoying the good […]
Telepathy and Relationships
Hello readers, Being in a relationship with a significant other seems to be a very important accomplishment in life. Relationships with other people are important teaching lessons and help us to learn about ourselves more quickly. Relationships also reveal our talents and help us to help others. In brief, being connected to other people is […]
Touch and Go: Contemporary Relationships
Photograph by Stephen Willats Hello readers, I work a lot on myself to grow beyond the pain in my life and to let go of negativity. Believe me, I have experienced many challenges in life, but it is a lot more pleasant to accept the love and energy that life has to […]
Starving or Feeding the Feminine from within: Some thoughts on eating disorders and spiritual purpose
Hello readers, Yesterday, I read a blog post by Elena on thecitizensoffashion.com (see link below) about how young women are promoting and spreading eating disorders through social media. http://thecitizensoffashion.com/2013/01/09/valeria-levitinthe-worlds-thinnest-woman-campaigns-against-anorexia/ Reading about Valeria Levitin, described as “the thinnest woman in the world” in the article, gave me pause. I remembered N., a former room-mate from art school […]
Boundaries and Loving Relationships: Are Boundaries Perceived Like Pheromones?
Hello readers, I grew up in a family where my mother was an all-powerful, all-encompassing force. You could say that she was formidable. In French, “formidable” means wonderful and awesome. I guess awesome can be overwhelming and frightening too. My father had willingly relinquished his voice and power to her, and my brother, sister, and […]
How Do You Love Your Enemies?
Hello readers, During this past week or so, I have been contemplating the meaning of the commandment / expression: “love your enemies”. Obviously not meant to be a simple task, nonetheless, there is a lot to think about regarding the meaning of this phrase. Do you have enemies? If you live in society with other […]
Living Simply: A New Standard of Living
Hello readers, I have always aspired to living simply, and for the most part, I feel I have succeeded. Although I have never earned much more than $20,000 a year, I manage to live simply with a focus on enjoying the moment. I feel that a high standard of living means doing work that has meaning, having […]
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