Friendship

Looking inward and getting away from fear


Hello readers, Humans are very emotional creatures. We like to think of ourselves as primarily rational beings, but for most of us, our emotions run the show – whether it be conscious or below the surface of our awareness. In fact, the most logical people who stubbornly assert that they live only by the facts […]

The layers of friendship


Hello readers, People always say that humans are social animals. I don’t know if other animals suffer from solitude, but I do know that our faithful companions, dogs, let us clearly know when they crave our attention. A dog knows that she needs to be touched, and she clearly communicates her desire and most of […]

What we value: let’s change one simple thing


Hello readers, I felt really proud when I heard a comment from French foreign minister, Laurent Fabius, who is currently presiding over the Paris climate talks. He noted that it is our responsibility, as western powers, to help countries across the African continent who are currently experiencing significant damage (terrible drought) from climate change. Africa […]

Friendship and identity


Hello readers, People, including me, are full of ideas, opinions, and after a few or several years of living on this planet, we use our personal experience, exposure to family, media, friends, and other other influences to construct a view of how we think the world should work and where we belong. One of my […]

painted word…a poem


an ache in my heart erases the glimmer of trust which once lit my eyes peeling the perspective of each day one an invitation two a threat three a choice a thoughtful reordering of the words that organize my head and so I encounter humanity a checkerboard of sharply contrasted thinking so many actions without […]

My life will get better: on hope and disappointment


Hello readers, Good parents know how to teach their kids to deal with frustration and disappointment, because not to do so is unkind to children. Parents who don’t delay gratification and who rush to fulfill their children’s needs and desires even before they have the ability or luxury to feel a little discomfort, are truly […]

Touching, isn’t it?


  Hello readers, We often underestimate our sense of touch and how sophisticated it really is. We know that our skin is the largest organ in/on our body, yet our awareness of our instinctive ability to  interpret the emotions and states of mind of other humans around us based on this under-appreciated sense is quite […]

Short but sweet!


Hello readers, I’ve realized that perhaps condensing my posts to the essential might be more effective. Everyone is very busy, and competition for our attention is fierce! How can we search our depths when so much energy is spent to keep our attention on the surface of life? For example, in on-line dating, we are […]

How did love become a luxury?


Hello readers, It occurred to me as I was driving to work this morning that in the world in which I live, it seems like love, passion, and joy are something most of us feel like we can only rarely afford to live and enjoy. For example, most of us (including myself) do work to […]

Where do I belong?


Hello readers, I’ve spent a big chunk of my life thinking about belonging and identity, and also about love of self and others…mostly because my own mother and father were never able to love me for myself and eventually cut me off from the family in every way. They tried to make sure that I […]

Friendship


Hello readers, There are many ways to relate to the world and its many planes, material and spiritual. The upheavals we are experiencing as a nation with regards to police brutality, racism, gay marriage are interesting to examine. More than one person has noted that forty or fifty years ago, neighbors knew one another by […]

Letter to Mr. Nick Hanauer: Seeds for America


Dear readers, Below is a letter I just sent to Mr. Nick Hanauer, billionaire tech entrepreneur, author, and social activist. In the letter, I outline my own idea for fostering social and creative change in America, to help grow personal creativity, meaningful lives, and social and economic growth to America and beyond.   Dear Mr. […]

Nationalism and Fundamentalism: Two Faces of Fear


Hello readers, Many of us around the world have been closely following the news during and following the terror attacks in and around Paris, France that killed over twenty people, including the majority of the editorial staff of satirical journal Charlie Hebdo, three police officers, and four Jewish civilians, as well as the perpetrators of […]

I can do alone all by myself


Hello readers, My friend and former therapist, Bernard, once told me that being excluded from belonging to a group, to the rest of humanity, is what all people fear most. Bernard is a really special person, and I really admire and respect him. I add to his claim, and I am pretty sure he would agree […]

Strong or weak? States of vulnerability in America


Hello readers, I have been living, working, and raising my son in the United States for eleven years now, and I constantly run into the issue of self-protection.  In other words, fear. I don’t think anyone feels safe in America, and I don’t think many feel safe to just be themselves, no matter what social media […]

Cramped skin or the web of love (a poem)


if skin were an envelope, a divider would it separate us from one another or allow us to better touch each other? sensitive nothingness cells drawing attention spirals around the luminous flux that is personality wrapped in bone human brains wrapping life and relationship into convenient patterns ruling out the vibrancy the freedom rainbow of pure […]

Thankful – thoughts on environment and culture


  Hello readers, Sometimes I fantasize about an America built on the principle of inter-connectedness of all things and beings.  I try to imagine a place where the schism of culture that is our European mono-theistic birthright never happened. Where man against nature was never a theme in literature or science. What might have happened […]

The Thing With Feathers (a book review)


a murmuration of starlings Hello readers, Who among us has never envied a bird in flight? Our mysterious neighbors, many of them so well adapted to urban life, are a subject of endless fascination. Noah Strycker’s book, “The Thing With Feathers: the surprising lives of birds and what they reveal about being human”, is a […]

Dear S. (letter to a reader) A poem


Dear S., I read your prose poem about fear four times each word fiercely aching and vibrating with the misery of a pure and tender heart shredded, fractured then armored with countless layers of terror, guilt loyal pump of life cellophaned to suffocation yet each word so precise so crisply observed so passionate It seems you gave […]

Guardian Angels Teach Us to Fly


Hello readers, The last few days I have been mulling over how my life seems to have gotten progressively more challenging the last several years.  At times, I have felt despair, as if a curse has enveloped me, as difficult persons and situations have entangled me in their webs of intrigue, their narcissistic dramas and […]