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Women and self-love

Women and self-love


Dearest readers, Why is it so easy to love a dog, a cat, a flower, even a dress, a tree but so hard to love yourself? Why are humans so hard to love? Women always talk about looking for love, but love is not something that exists outside of self. The nature of reality is […]

Triggered: Healing codependency through the ascension process

Triggered: Healing codependency through the ascension process


  Dearest readers, Do you feel like the number of times that you are emotionally triggered has increased over the last few years, months, even days? If you do, you are not alone. The ascension process is a gradual awakening of the human being, and a transition or healing process as well, taking us from […]

The Wounded Mother and bringing the truth to light: some thoughts for her and for her children

The Wounded Mother and bringing the truth to light: some thoughts for her and for her children


Dearest readers, Today is Mother’s Day in the United States. My mother has refused to speak to me for many years. The last time we exchanged words, she screamed at me over the phone, refusing to go to her own mother’s funeral. That was in April of 2007. I could not find a commercial Mother’s […]

How to make your neighborhood a safe, happy place

How to make your neighborhood a safe, happy place


Dearest readers, I am a member of a neighborhood social network called NextDoor. It is a wonderful site, connecting people in contiguous communities, allowing people to exchange thoughts, practical information, make friends, and to help one another in various ways. However, the issue of crime and neighborhood safety is one which keeps recurring, and I […]

On purpose: musings about why we are here

On purpose: musings about why we are here


Dearest readers, You may feel a vague or a more intense urging that there is a specific reason for which you came to live on Earth at this particular time. Many of us want to know: why am I here, and what is my specific purpose? I think about this a lot. There are so […]

Self-love, self-empowerment, and charity


Dearest readers, We all know in our minds that it is good to be kind to others. It is good to treat others as we wish to be treated. These are moral concepts that we have been taught since we were little. Share your toys. Don’t be selfish. Yet at the same time, as we […]

The Stranger & the mirror: How looking inward changes our cultural paradigm towards outsiders


Dear readers, I recently reread Albert Camus’ iconic novel, The Stranger. It struck me as I was reading that Meursault’s detached personality and precise, yet objective truthfulness would probably place him somewhere on the autism spectrum today. As most people know, the bizarre cultural mindset of the time in which the novel is set (1950’s […]

Overfed and divorced (a poem)


relentless hunger twists internal organs chimp raised hawk hoards billions shiny brilliants golden chips fresh water and virgin land expensively shod feet  crush serene beauty masturbating mountains and the glinting eye of cruelty ownership of what can’t be owned oversized testicles twist minds perverting meaning and information intention to mislead maw open masking fangs spreading […]

America is a welfare state…for rich people!


Hello readers, When I lived in France, I never felt poor, even though I never earned very much money. I felt like my life was focused on creativity, on being an artist, then a parent,on living the life I wanted to live. I had to live very frugally in order to accomplish this, and I owned […]

Why are bad presidential candidates like bad boyfriends, and what makes them attractive?


Hello readers, Have you ever been drawn like a magnet to a person because of their charm or charisma, only to learn later that the person is self-centered, emotionally or physically abusive, vindictive, and possibly dangerous? Did you ever wonder why so many of us (including myself at some points in my life) find or […]

Looking inward and getting away from fear


Hello readers, Humans are very emotional creatures. We like to think of ourselves as primarily rational beings, but for most of us, our emotions run the show – whether it be conscious or below the surface of our awareness. In fact, the most logical people who stubbornly assert that they live only by the facts […]

Socially responsible: How using social media can bypass Congress and bring us direct democracy


Hello readers, I really admire President Obama. He is an incredibly intelligent, educated, and caring man. I am proud of what he has accomplished in this country despite huge obstacles: blanket opposition by Republican representatives to just about every measure he has attempted to introduce under his presidency. President Obama has remained committed to a “working […]

Why are so many Americans addicted to guns and drugs?


Hello readers, I went to a Bernie Sanders debate party organized by the owner of a local bar and restaurant the other evening, to hear out the views of our three Democratic candidates for the 2016 presidential elections. The moderator asked all three candidates, Bernie Sanders, Hillary Clinton, and Martin O’Malley how they would address the […]

My life will get better: on hope and disappointment


Hello readers, Good parents know how to teach their kids to deal with frustration and disappointment, because not to do so is unkind to children. Parents who don’t delay gratification and who rush to fulfill their children’s needs and desires even before they have the ability or luxury to feel a little discomfort, are truly […]

Is it really liberating to not have to care?


Hello readers, I recently resigned from my library job because after six years, I still hadn’t been promoted, and I wasn’t earning a living wage. I felt that working for a county government provided some kind of stability – a pension fund after ten years in, and a pretty good health insurance and benefits package, […]

A Letter to Bernie Sanders


Dear Mr. Sanders, I am a single mom, and like many of your supporters, I had to resign from my full-time library job because I was not making enough money to buy food. I was worried I would not be able to send my son to college, and I was starting to accumulate debt despite […]

What do Buddha, Jesus, and C.G. Jung have in common?


Dear readers, I’ve written about how co-dependency is encouraged in our culture and relationships, so much so that most people don’t even notice how their relationship to self and to the world is permeated by drama and the inability to face one’s own shadows and pain honestly. Numbed by overwork, entertainment, and countless distractions, we […]

Angry, broken, insecure: the world we inherited from Cain


Dear readers, I am not a religious person, but I believe in the life of spirit. I also believe that together as living beings, we imagine and create the world we live in. It is a collective work of spirit and art. That is why I particularly enjoy folk tales and creation stories. The story […]

Why kindness matters


Hello readers! I am about 200 or so pages into book 2 of The Century Trilogy, “Winter of the World” by Ken Follett.  What is so compelling about Follett’s portrayal of our recent history in this epic series is how he helps the reader to see the primary motivating factors at work in human nature through […]

Friendship


Hello readers, There are many ways to relate to the world and its many planes, material and spiritual. The upheavals we are experiencing as a nation with regards to police brutality, racism, gay marriage are interesting to examine. More than one person has noted that forty or fifty years ago, neighbors knew one another by […]